Looking for the Black Prince Charming???

Marriage is suppose to be every girl's dream, to be a princess bride. Now it is a national controversial topic. It has gone from a dream to a nightmare for women, especially black women.

Now that we have the First African American Disney Princess. Black Women are asking themselves where is my Black Prince Charming?

I remember when Cendrine first started dating at Morgan Park High School, she asked me about how to find a husband. I will share with you the advice that I gave her back then.

I explained to Cendrine that initially college was where white women went to find their husbands. They did not really attend college to pursue careers, but rather to pursue the doctor or lawyer. They found their husband before he became successful. They helped him to achieve his success.

I also shared with her that many women met their future husbands in high school. Some married young after graduation. They made a commitment and were life partners. My parents met at Wendell Phillips and married after high school. Many old school African Americans married after high school or younger. In my opinion the answer to this problem lies with our parents and grandparents. There are many committed relationships to model. Focus on positive married couples.

My daughters have been discussing the Nightline Special "Single, Black, Female-- and Plenty of
Company. http://abcnews.go.com/Nightline/single-black-females/story?id=9395275

These are the statistics from that segment:

She has plenty of company. Forty-two percent of U.S. black women have never been married, double the number of white women who've never tied the knot. there are 1.8 million more black women than black men. So even if every black man in America married a black woman today, one out of 12 black women still wouldn't make it down the aisle if they hoped to marry a black man.

(Click on the link 1.8 million more black women, this link will take you to an article about Tiger Woods entitled "Why Did Tiger Woods Get Married?"). White America is upset that Tigers Woods disrespected his "Fair Hair" bride. They might well have asked the question
"How many black men date only White women?".

Let's take 100 black men. By the time you eliminate those without a high school diploma (21 percent), the unemployed (17 percent) and those ages 25-34 who are incarcerated (8 percent), you have only half of black men, 54 percent, whom many black women find acceptable.

The fallacy in this argument is that all black women are acceptable to marry black men.

This same segmentation was not applied to black women.
What percentage of the black women do not have a high school diploma?
What percentage of black women are unemployed?
What percentage of black women ages 25-34 are incarcerated?

Let's go beyond and segment further.
What percentage of black women are on drugs?
What percentage of black women are Lesbians?
What percentage of black women date white men?

What age group of black women are 1.8 million women that are double the black men?
What age group of black men are they referring to?

Age group is only mentioned when looking at black men ages 25-34 are incarcerated.

I find this theory to focus on the negatives of black men and promoting Black women to marry White Men as a solution.

Here we go again allowing others to define our relationship to each other. Whose point of view is this? The Media.

Put on your critical thinking hat. Why are all these educated black women believing this hype?

The answer lies within you. It is your belief system that creates your reality.

You get what you believe. If you believe that there are no black men to marry, then that is what you get--no black man to marry.

If you say that all black men are gay, incarcerated, uneducated, and unemployed then that is what you will get.

What you focus on, expands.

Love yourself first.

Protect your mind and your beliefs.

You are not 1.8 million double the number of Black men. You are you.
You are a single being in your corner of the universe.

I have never once believed that I can not have a Black man.

I don't believe the hype, you should not either.

If you are full of jealousy, hatred, frustration, other negative traits, then you push away your Black Prince charming.

Personal development is the key to finding your Black Prince Charming.

I am recently divorced, but we were married for 25 years. Today that is a lifetime to compared to most marriages. Now I am back dating again. It certainly has changed from when I was single twenty-five years ago.

I know without a doubt that I will have committed relationship with a good Black Man again.

This was a great segment to promote Steve Harvey's Book "Act Like A Lady Think Like A Man".
Steve Harvey suggested that Sisters should looking a dating older men.

What are your thoughts?